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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries. - National Competition on Worries.
Let me introduce you to today's guests.
They're members of a popular girl group.
It's Cao Lu and Hye Mi from FIESTAR.
(Cao Lu and Hye Mi)
Kim Kyung Shik.
(Comedian Kim Kyung Shik)
Jeong Kyeong Mi.
(A comedian and a mother, Jeong Kyeong Mi)
Park Bo Ram.
(Singer Park Bo Ram)
- Is Cho Sae Ho nice to you? - Yes, he is.
What do you think of guys like Sae Ho?
- He's... - What's your ideal type like?
- not my ideal type. - He's just weird.
(He's not really my type.)
Who is your ideal type, then?
- Kim Soo Hyun. - Kim Soo Hyun?
Sae Ho is nothing like him.
Do they have anything in common?
- Cho Sae Ho and Kim Soo Hyun. - They have nothing in common.
They have a lot in common.
- They really do. - They do?
Firstly, both of them speak Korean fluently.
Don't be like that.
(They both speak Korean fluently.)
Secondly, they were on the same drama.
- Oh, right. - Sae Ho was in the drama, too.
- That's right. - What's the third one?
They both eat food, right?
- You're right. - They both eat food.
They both drink water as well.
What do you like about Kim Soo Hyun?
He once played a character that was very conservative and strict.
- I like men who are strict. - You like men who are strict?
- That's your type? - Yes. For example,
if my boyfriend asks not to wear skirts,
I'll happily say, "Okay, I won't."
Let's say you wore pants and he said, "Don't wear pants."
(Don't wear skirts or pants.)
- What is she supposed to wear? - What should she wear?
Don't cut this part out. Make sure you air it.
- She can wear shorts. - Let's see how the viewers react.
Please air the part where I say, "She can wear shorts."
(Please air this part.)
- He's even dirtier than I imagined. - I know.
(He's dirtier than I imagined.)
Doesn't he look dirty as well?
That's right. He has such a dirty stare.
(He has a dirty stare.)
My goodness.
Try looking him in the eye.
I can't look at him.
- Have you looked him in the eye? - Gosh.
Is there a certain kind of worry that you are good at counselling?
Is there a type of worry that you're familiar with?
What about you, Cao Lu?
I'm an expert at giving positive advice.
- You are an expert on that? - Yes.
I'm an expert at self-justification.
For example,
when I was in China for our first fan meeting,
I hurt my forehead and it swelled up.
But I just thought of it as a good luck charm.
I thought my forehead looked prettier...
because it looked more round.
- She's positive. - Keep hitting your forehead.
- That sounds like a good idea. - You're so positive.
You're in charge of positive advice today.
I'm the opposite.
- Are you negative? - Do you give negative advice?
- She'll give them negative advice. - I mean...
I'm an expert at taking revenge. I say harsh things...
- with a smile on my face. - I see.
If I said your face was swollen, what would you say?
I'd say, "You should worry about your face instead."
(She is harsh.)
I'll look forward to your advice today.
What about you, Kyung Shik?
I'm focusing on raising my kids these days.
So I can give advice on raising kids with love.
I'm sure you're a loving dad.
Every night,
I read bedtime stories to my kids.
- What about you, Kyeong Mi? - I can counsel working mums.
That's right.
- What about you, Bo Ram? - Losing weight?
I'd like to call myself an expert on never losing my cool.
- Cool? - Are you normally like that?
Yes. No matter what people say about me,
I never get upset as long as I know it's not true.
Bo Ram, you've lost too much weight. You don't look healthy.
You look sick.
- How would you react? - She looks angry.
You touch your face when you're irritated.
You don't seem like a cool person.
She's angry.
(She doesn't seem reliable.)
I hope you'll give a lot of good advice for today's worries.
Last week, "Find My Husband" won.
I'm so lonely because my husband works too much.
He goes to work early in the morning and comes home late at night.
- Even on Sundays? - We've been married for four years.
We've never been on a date for the past four years.
- What? - I didn't marry her to go on dates.
I married her because I wanted to live with her.
When did he last kiss you?
It was before we got married.
Has he changed?
He still comes home late.
But he promised to take Sundays off and go on dates with me.
- It's Sunday today. - It's Sunday.
Yes, we went to Yeouido Park to see the cherry blossoms today.
- Cherry blossoms? - Cherry blossoms?
(It's their first date since they got married.)
He doesn't look happy...
even in front of food or cherry blossoms.
- He doesn't look happy. - He seems indifferent.
- His expression never changes. - Wait.
The staff just told us...
that this was your first time at a cafe since you got married.
- Yes. It was the first time. - My goodness.
- That's unbelievable. - Sir.
How did it feel to go see the cherry blossoms with your wife?
Working is less tiring.
Dates exhaust me.
Do you have to say that?
Have you become physically more intimate as well?
- That's the most important thing. - That's important.
He came home a bit early last Monday...
and kissed me.
(They kissed.)
- Was that it? Was there more? - Well...
- Tell us the details. - Be quiet.
(Tell us more.)
- Don't act like Dong Yeob. - That was funny.
Let's see if they can win for the second time today.
- What's the prize? - We'll give the winner...
a 1,000-dollar gift certificate.
Show us the keywords please.
("Tattoo Man", "It Never Ends", "Stop Nagging Me")
I'll read the story titled "It Never Ends".
- They burst into laughter. - They must find it funny.
Hello, I'm a woman who has been married for 14 years.
My marriage life seemed normal...
until this shocking change happened four years ago.
"Honey,"
"I can't go on like this."
"I want to get out of this city and move to Wando."
"Let's live there peacefully."
- Wando? - "We'll live by the sea."
"I'll do all the work."
"You just focus on raising our kids."
"Let's move, okay?"
They moved to the countryside.
Do you want to know how I've been doing?
It couldn't be further from a peaceful life in the countryside.
My life has been shattered into tiny pieces.
I wake up at 6:30am and prepare breakfast.
Then I shuck oysters.
After I prepare lunch,
I shuck oysters again.
After dinner,
- I shuck oysters again. - I shuck oysters again.
All day long,
- I shuck oysters. - I shuck oysters.
- In my dream, I shuck oysters. - I shuck oysters.
"Honey, come here and shuck some oysters."
"Help me."
She wants to shuck the oysters together.
"That's not a man's job."
"I should have married a young hard-working lady."
- My goodness. - Why would he say that?
- How can he say that? - Push the button!
I feel like a slave.
I can't live like this any more.
I see.
Should I run away?
Please help me. Okay.
(That's harsh.)
They moved...
to a fishing village.
- Yes. - They moved to Wando.
Moving to a fishing village was a bad idea.
Women in fishing villages have so much to do.
- You used to live by the sea. - I grew up in a fishing village.
- Now that I think of it, - Yes.
when I see a fishing village on television,
- They're working. - it's always the women who work.
That's why women in fishing villages...
- have crooked backs. - That's right.
They work too much.
What did you think of this story?
Well... He's my type.
Pardon?
She's so positive.
He's very bossy.
- You're so positive. - He tells you what to do.
If I love a man,
and I can do something for him,
- I think I'd be happy. - You're unbelievable.
What did you think?
- Hye Mi. - You should take revenge.
First of all, it's different from what he had promised.
Also, her husband complains while she does all the work.
What would you do if this happened to you?
- You have to shuck oysters. - Yes.
I'd run away.
You'd run away?
Would you run away?
My mother wanted to run away.
Let's hear from her now.
Please welcome her to the stage. Please come on out.
(She has to shuck oysters all day because of her husband.)
(Park Hyun Sun)
She looks so young.
(She looks young.)
Leave your shoes there.
- She's still very young. - She looks very young.
She has holes on her jeans because of all the shucking.
It takes years to get used to the work.
Please introduce yourself.
Hello.
My name is Park Hyun Sun and I live in Wando.
So, Hyun Sun,
did you send us the letter because the work is too hard?
That was one of the reasons...
but it's mostly because I'm angry at my husband.
- You're angry at your husband? - You're angry.
- Why are you angry at him? - Why are you angry?
- He used to have a decent job. - Okay.
But he suddenly wanted to move to the countryside.
He said I wouldn't have to do anything...
except raising the kids.
But it turned out...
there's so much work to do.
You must feel like you've been deceived.
Of course. I was deceived.
Why did you trust your husband in the first place?
At first,
I refused to move.
- But he quit his job. - He did?
- Without discussing it with you? - He decided it on his own.
He sold our apartment as well.
- He did that on his own? - He sold their apartment.
- Gosh. - He moved to Wando with the kids.
- With the kids? - Yes.
He told me to come down when I was ready.
So I quit my job a month later...
- and moved. - He's very decisive.
How much work do you have?
I have to work all year round.
- All year round? - Yes.
In March and April, I have to shuck oysters...
and pick kelp.
From May to July,
- I have to dry the kelp. - I see.
In August, I work with hijiki.
- Hijiki? - Yes.
- Do you have to pick them? - I have to dry them.
But you're not so busy during winter.
Not really. I shucked oysters all winter.
- She shucked oysters. - During winter?
- Yes. - In the cold?
I wake up at 6:30am.
I prepare breakfast and send the kids to school.
After that, I start shucking oysters.
- Right away? - Yes.
When my husband comes home with the oysters he picked,
I prepare his breakfast...
and then go back to shucking oysters.
When it's lunchtime,
I prepare lunch and then shuck oysters again.
When it's around 7 or 8pm,
- I have dinner. - You have dinner.
When I finish cleaning up, it's around midnight.
She really shucks oysters all day long.
How many oysters do you shuck a day?
- She works all day. - How much do you shuck a day?
- I shuck more than 15kg a day. - 15kg?
I shuck oysters 10 hours a day.
What does your husband do while you work?
- What does he do? - That's what I want to know.
- "That's what I want to know." - Gosh.
- What does he do? - He says...
he's tired from picking oysters.
He's always tired.
He doesn't want to do anything once he comes home.
I have to wash his work clothes and towels.
- It's my job. - You have to wash them?
- Yes. - Gosh.
Let's meet the husband who has changed so much.
Hello. Nice to meet you.
I'm from Wando.
- He's dressed nicely. - Before you moved,
you told her she wouldn't have to work.
Don't you feel bad for your wife?
- Why should I? - Sorry?
It's different from what you promised.
Even if it is,
we should try to adjust to our new lives.
- Shouldn't you apologise to her? - He should.
- In the countryside, - Yes?
everybody lives that way.
Even elderly ladies start working from dawn.
Did you just sweet-talk your wife to move?
- Yes. - How can you be so shameless?
- Wait. - You sweet-talked your wife?
Did you always dream of moving to the countryside?
- Or did something happen? - When I was working in the city,
I watched my seniors closely...
and it looked like almost everyone got fired after they turned 50.
- That's true. - Am I wrong?
But in the countryside,
as long as I'm healthy, I can work all my life.
So what do you do?
- I wake up at 6am... - Okay.
and I go straight to the sea.
I haul oysters up...
- onto the ship. - Right.
It's extremely exhausting.
- That's true. - I'd say...
it's three times harder than other jobs.
After that I come home.
It's frustrating that my wife doesn't understand me.
How many hours do you work?
I work 2 to 3 hours.
- He does work. - After listening to him,
I'm starting to lean towards his side.
You don't understand.
After picking the oysters,
he disappears.
- Where do you go? - Where do you go?
Where do you go when she is shucking the oysters?
I get ready for the next day. I deliver things as well.
Sometimes, I hang out with my neighbours.
- What did you say? - What?
That isn't work.
I'm not having fun. I have my reasons for doing that.
It's been only three years since we moved.
I need to become closer with my neighbours.
What about your wife's relationships with the neighbours?
- She's building them, too. - With who?
- With oysters? - Sorry?
She's become friends with kelp.
At night,
when the weather is bad,
we have to make sure the boats are...
- safely anchored. - Okay.
- He tells me to go out and check. - What?
- At night? - Yes.
- Why do you send her? - She's weaker than you.
- That's dangerous. - I'm tired after drinking at night.
You drink in the evening.
She just has to take a look.
It's not like I told her to carry the boat.
- Then... - She just has to take a look.
- Why is it that hard? - I mean...
You don't seem to regret your actions.
Why can't you shuck oysters with her?
- Why can't you do that? - I'm a man.
It's not a job for men.
- Seriously? - Wow.
- I can't... - Let's hear him out.
Let's listen to him.
- You know "Hometown Report", right? - Yes.
- Men never shuck oysters. - I've never seen that.
It's hard for men to sit like that for a long time.
Can't you sit like this and pick oysters?
It is just physically impossible.
You can do it while standing up. Just do it standing up.
My back hurts.
Your back hurts?
But it's okay for women?
- Our backs would hurt, too. - They can talk while they work.
- They can talk while they work? - That's not the point.
Men don't talk a lot.
You could shuck oysters while you talk to your wife.
- You could work together. - My goodness.
- You won't be talking to oysters. - I don't like talking.
- What did he say? - He's making me so angry.
(We've barely scratched the surface.)
We're going to give it a try.
- Try what? - We've prepared oysters from Wando.
- Wow. - My goodness.
That's a lot.
(Fresh oysters from Wando)
Let's shuck these oysters. Give it a try.
- What? We're going to shuck them? - Yes.
Our guests will shuck them, too.
- You can wear these aprons. - It is hard.
- You do 15kg of oysters a day. - I used to shuck shellfish.
That's the weight of the oysters, right? Not the shells.
Yes. This will only come to about 1 to 2kg.
- It's not that much. - The weight of shucked oysters...
- is 15kg. - That's right.
If we weighed them with the shells, it would be a lot less of work.
She shucks the equivalent of 10 of these boxes a day.
- This is the front side. - Okay.
You need to press your knife in. But if a beginner tries it like this,
- he or she could get hurt. - Okay.
Put your oysters on the ground.
- The oyster's eye is here. - I see.
- We need to pierce its eye? - Be careful, there's water inside.
Open up the shell like this. It's opened.
Let's try.
- They're from Wando? - Yes.
This is when you can eat fresh oysters from Wando.
It might be salty though.
- It's salty. - This is how you eat it.
Yes, you can eat the oysters in one go.
(She eats the oyster.)
- Isn't it salty? - It's salty.
- It's good. - Wasn't it salty?
- It tastes good. - Like this?
- Yes. - Can you shuck one more oyster?
(They are hard to open and yet they disappear so quickly.)
Is it hard to shuck oysters? What do you think?
- I haven't shucked a single oyster. - It's hard.
- It takes time. - Is it hard?
Since we're not doing it properly, the broken shells...
- are going into the oyster. - Yes.
That can't happen, right?
- Right. It lowers the quality. - The shells break off.
You are a man, Kyung Shik. Is it that hard to shuck an oyster?
It doesn't work. I keep breaking the shell.
- It breaks. - You can't sell it if it breaks.
It's so hard to shuck a single oyster. But she...
- shucks 15kg a day. - That's right.
That's a lot of work.
- My legs are numb already. - I know.
- Imagine doing this in winter. - It'd be freezing.
- My hands are cold. - Right.
- Do your hands get cold? - Yes. The water goes everywhere.
The water would freeze the inside of the gloves, too.
My hands would freeze, too.
What is the most stressful thing about your husband?
Whenever I say I feel tired, he asks, "Why do you feel tired?"
- That makes you feel sad. - Yes.
He can at least say it nicely.
I know that it's hard work.
I can do the work. I just wish he was nicer to me.
I think he's very direct with what he says.
I think that's his style.
Let me explain. I grew up in countryside.
I've seen my own mother working by the sea. She was fine.
(His mother was perfect.)
She did the housework as well.
Compared to my mother, her work is easy.
(Her work is easy.)
- Do you think she is resting? - Yes.
- She can do more. - Excuse me?
She can move quicker than that. She doesn't move fast enough.
That's why I need to call my mum for help.
She helps with the housework,
- shucks oysters and cleans. - I see.
I feel bad for my mother, too. I feel guilty.
Is she your mother?
- Yes, she is. - Hello.
- Hello.
Hello.
Ma'am.
Do you live close by?
I don't. I live in Goyang.
- Where? - You mean Ilsan?
- Do you mean Ilsan? - Yes.
How long does it take from Ilsan to Wando?
It takes six hours.
You take a six-hour trip to help your daughter.
- Yes. - How often do you go?
How often?
I usually go in October and come back in February.
- Really? - You stay there for four months.
- Yes. I go there to help her. - She comes to harvest oysters.
- She comes to help. - Yes.
- We harvest kelp, too. - I also help her harvest kelp.
- I go back to Wando in May. - You go there again?
- I go back to Wando. - When do you come back?
I usually stay there for three months.
That means you stay in Wando for six months.
- It's more than half a year. - Yes.
Doesn't your husband complain?
- He stays home alone. - Okay.
He doesn't like it when I go to Wando.
But he could be enjoying his free time though.
(I've never thought about that.)
What are you implying, Chan Woo?
Is he here today?
- He's here. - Where is he?
Look, he is sitting away from them.
(Let's talk to her husband.)
- Sir. - Hello.
Why are you sitting so far away from her?
Look at his eyebrows.
Why do you look so young?
His eyebrows are awesome.
(Is he Bodhidharma?)
His eyebrows are impressive.
Are they real eyebrows?
- No way. - Yes, they are.
(Proud)
"Yes, they are."
You could sweep floors with your eyebrows.
- I used to do that. - "I used to do that."
Your wife stays in Wando half the time.
Isn't that hard for you?
- It is hard. But... - Yes.
we want to help our daughter.
- She could cook for the kids. - Can't you go to Wando with her?
- I can't go because of my work. - He's working.
Who prepares the meal for you?
- I cook sometimes. - I see.
- I eat out when I get lazy. - I see.
Do you do the housework?
- Yes. I do the laundry, too. - You're living...
all alone because of your daughter.
- I'm okay with that as long as... - Yes.
my kids are comfortable. That's what matters to me.
Goodness.
I think...
it's the mother who is suffering the most.
But he got the applause.
(He stole the applause.)
- She's the one who needs it. - It's been tough on her.
How do you feel, Ma'am?
- How do you really feel? - Isn't it hard?
It's really tiring. I work extremely hard.
We didn't see that coming.
They make me do so much work.
Why don't you come down and join us here?
- You can have a seat here. - Please come down.
(You deserve to get everything off of your chest, too.)
It's also her worry.
- Do we have a seat for her? - Yes.
There's no need to rush.
(She was waiting for this.)
You can have a seat here.
Please introduce yourself.
- Tell us your name and... - Hello,
I'm Lee Myung Sun and I'm from Goyang.
Okay.
Please tell us how much work you do in Wando.
- When he brings the honey... - You mean oysters.
Yes, when my son-in-law brings in the oysters,
I put about 200 oysters per bag with a shovel.
- You need to shovel it in? - Yes.
My daughter delivers them. She drives a truck.
- She drives the truck? - Yes.
She unloads the boxes. The net weighs about 12 to 13kg. It's heavy.
- Gosh. - How hard is it?
Does your body ache?
Yes. My whole body hurts.
- You can't imagine. - I see.
All my joints hurt. I feel pain everywhere.
From head to toe, everything hurts.
- What do you then? - I always take medicine.
Oops.
- It's okay. - You need painkillers.
- You need painkillers? - And my son-in-law said to me,
"You are a big woman. You can work harder than that."
He said that to you?
- He said that to me. - That's too much.
So I said,
"I'm 60 years old. Why don't you come up here and try it, you jerk?"
(She replies with love.)
I work hard for them and he talks to me like that.
At the same time, I have a feeling that you and your son-in-law...
- are close to each other. - Yes, we are.
It's been about 7 to 8 years since we've all lived together.
Worst of all, he is a picky eater.
- You're being very nice to him. - Yes.
Why are you picky with her food?
I eat a late breakfast because I have to bring in the oysters.
There's only a bowl of rice and two side dishes.
There's no soup. That's why I said something.
I put my chopsticks down and said,
"Is this the best the two of you can do? Is this it?"
- Didn't you say anything back? - Wow.
Sometimes we don't have soup.
Most of the time, we do have soup.
- Sometimes she is busy. - Yes.
He couldn't stand a day without soup.
It's not hard to make soup.
- Then why don't you do it yourself? - Make some for your family.
- She's an amazing woman. - Yes.
Although you are helping your own daughter but since...
you spend a lot of time together, I'm sure you argue, too.
Has she ever hurt your feelings?
When she and her husband has an argument,
she comes to me and says,
"I might have been happier if you didn't give birth to me."
She blames me for her hard life sometimes. It breaks my heart.
It hurts.
- I understand how hard her life is. - She didn't mean it.
(Her feelings have been hurt, too.)
Do you want to say anything else?
I feel so much better now since I said everything I wanted.
- Do you feel better now? - Yes.
Will you start picking oysters again tomorrow?
I need to help her harvest the kelp in May.
- Okay. - We have hijiki to harvest, too.
What do your friends do in May?
I'm sure they go on a picnic to enjoy the flower exhibitions.
- You're at the oyster exhibition. - That's right.
(She'll be at the oyster exhibition.)
- Oyster shows and exhibitions. - Yes, that's right.
- Please go back to your seat. - Okay.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
(Running)
She always runs.
When do you feel that living in Wando is unbearable?
- Two years ago, - Yes.
- I accidentally fell on the ship. - Oh, dear.
- I hurt my back. - Oh, no.
I was in the hospital for two weeks.
But he didn't make a single phone call or visit me.
So I was very sad.
- I'm sure you were. - When I told him my back hurts,
he said his back hurts even more.
- I pull heavy things every day. - Yes.
My back really hurts.
Let me be honest.
She keeps saying it hurts. It's not like her back is broken.
She just received a simple medical treatment.
She was hospitalised for two weeks.
She stayed there longer because...
she wanted to rest.
How can you be so indifferent?
- It's not like that. - How could you do that?
- He's harsh. - Isn't it...
quite impressive for a person from the city to be able to...
do this kind of work?
That's true.
- She says she works hard. - Yes.
However, this is what she did two years ago.
- What did she do? - Even though we were very busy,
she went to participate in the "National Singing Contest".
- What did you say? - She deserves some fun.
"National Singing Contest"?
She ordered me to sing,
- and she danced. - Really?
Did you two participate in the "National Singing Contest"?
Yes, we won the popularity award.
Wow.
Didn't you say you were busy?
It's the same thing today.
This isn't a worry. This is how everyone lives in the countryside.
Do you think your wife wanted to be on the show...
- to have fun? - Yes.
- Like "National Singing Contest"? - Yes.
- Are you here to have fun? - No, I'm not.
Although I do like to have fun,
- I still think that people... - I want to see her dance.
around me feel sorry for me.
A few days ago,
my friend said to her husband, "Honey, my arm hurts."
"Do you want to shuck oyster shells like Hyun Sun?"
She told me her husband said that,
so I wondered if people pitied me.
- I wondered if I should be pitied. - Did you think that?
- That thought crossed my mind. - They think what you do is hard.
- What you do seems difficult. - So...
even though my work is difficult,
I am here to tell everyone...
that I am not unhappy.
- I see. - She's regaining her pride.
Did you relieve all of your stress by doing something different?
Yes, I felt better.
They must be good at singing.
We have a video clip of their performance.
- Really? - Yes.
It's a video clip from when they won the popularity award.
Let's take a look.
Here is a lovely couple.
Please say hello.
Even though we had good jobs in the city,
we suddenly decided to move here.
We also decided to participate today.
They'll be singing "Oh Jaok".
- He also put in the effort. - "Oh Jaok".
(They are about to sing.)
- He also put in the effort. - "Oh Jaok".
(Splendid)
She is so cool.
They look so cute.
(Her movements are controlled.)
(A sweet and soft voice)
Goodness.
(Why did I do that?)
Oh, my.
She must have had a lot of stress.
What kind of movement is that?
(This isn't some meaningless movement.)
(We worked hard on this dance.)
- She dances well. - They are great.
They are good.
They really are.
(They passed.)
(They deserved the popularity award.)
(They were given more time to dance.)
The two of them work well together.
(Immersed)
Look at her facial expression.
(He slips.)
That's enough.
(That's probably why he said his back hurts.)
- Anyway, - Goodness.
Wait a minute.
Why does he have that look on his face?
It looked like you enjoyed it more than her.
(He seems to have enjoyed it more.)
- I know. - Here is the popularity award!
(Please smile.)
(He shows his smile again.)
I was more surprised by the wife.
How can you dance so well?
Your friends might have thought that you were happy after...
moving to a fishing village.
- Do you miss the city life? - Goodness.
- Yes, I do. - I'm surprised.
- I miss it. - Do you miss it a lot?
- In that case... - Two weeks ago,
I had to take care of something in Seoul.
Other than that, I visited Seoul...
about a year ago. I met up with my friends.
I really liked the endless rows of...
- apartments... - Did you miss it?
- and the crowded streets. - How about the polluted air?
- Right. - She liked the fine dust.
It's possible to miss those things.
Whenever you are used to certain things,
it's very difficult to get away from them.
And she moved after...
quitting her job.
What did you give up in order to move?
Can you list them?
- My job. - Your job.
- Your job? - My hobbies.
- Right. - A license I earned.
- A license? - My future.
What kind of license was it?
It's a certification for elderly care.
- Isn't your future guaranteed? - Yes.
- I wanted to work in that field, - Okay.
- That's why you got it. - so I became certified.
However, it became useless now.
Even though I moved after giving up those things,
my husband seems to neglect his family.
Are you satisfied with your life now?
I am very satisfied.
- Are you very satisfied? - Yes.
Should your wife also be satisfied because you are?
She should be.
- I'm doing this for the family. - Why?
- Shouldn't you consider her, too? - She should follow my lead.
- Wow. - That's not right.
Don't you think following your lead...
requires your wife to only make sacrifices?
We don't have a lot at the moment.
We don't have a lot of money,
so we don't have a choice but to work hard.
I hoped my wife would help out as well.
I think the husband is mistaken.
It's not like the wife doesn't work or is refusing to work.
She just wants you to be nicer to her.
Why can't you do that? It's not like you're spending money.
I am not good at being sweet.
- That's his personality. - You can give it a try.
That's his personality.
Have you always been good at shucking oyster shells?
- I couldn't even eat fresh oysters. - I thought so.
- You tried and did it, right? - Yes.
She couldn't do it before, either.
I will try to be nicer from now on.
(That's the perfect answer.)
It doesn't take a lot to be sweet.
Let's start with Cao Lu. Do you think it's a worry?
I don't think...
- it's a worry. - It's not a worry?
No, after listening to them,
I realised the husband is a good person.
He's responsible.
- Isn't he strict? - She likes men who are strict.
- Right. - That's exactly right.
Look at his wife.
(What's wrong with her?)
- She is funny. - That wasn't a bad joke.
- How about you, Hye Mi? - I think it's a worry.
Even if she has to shuck oyster shells for 10 hours,
I hope she will give herself...
some free time to visit her family...
and to visit Seoul more often.
- Kyung Shik? - I don't think it's a worry.
- I think... - I see.
she came here to brag about her husband.
Most families...
- I am being serious. - Look at her face.
Listen. Shucking oyster shells is laborious.
However, they seem to be happy so it's not a worry.
After we saw the "National Singing Contest" video clip,
- it became less serious. - Yes.
- Right. - It became less serious.
- You're right. - Kyeong Mi?
- I think... - Is it a worry?
- it's a worry. - From the woman's perspective?
- If he said, "Thank you", - Yes.
or "Try to bear it a little longer."
That would have made a huge difference.
- Yes. - It's a worry.
- Bo Ram. - How about you, Bo Ram?
I think it's a worry, too.
Having a hard time physically isn't the biggest concern.
She needs words of encouragement...
and some time to rest.
Please press the button...
if you think it's a worry.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time is up.
Please tell her what's on your mind.
Hyun Sun, wait a little longer.
When we grow older, I will make sure...
to treat you better.
Let's work together. I love you.
Okay.
(I love you.)
Do you feel better?
(A smile spreads across her face.)
- That's all she needed to hear. - Her heart is melting.
Let's find out how many votes they received.
Please show us the result.
(The result)
Okay, 100...
The number of votes is over 100.
(Will they be the new winner?)
They received a lot of votes.
(Eliminated and survived)
It's a story of a woman who's very frustrated...
- due to her boyfriend's looks. - Is he handsome?
Hello, I'm a woman in my 20s.
I have a boyfriend whose looks become the centre of attention.
When people see him, they say,
"Gosh, did you see that man? That's unbelievable."
"Wow, I have never seen someone like that before."
(Coughing)
- His looks must be incredible. - Yes.
- They were dumbfounded. - "Seriously."
"Wow, that's incredible."
Are you asking if my boyfriend is good-looking like Song Joong Ki?
No, the reason why people are staring...
is because of...
my boyfriend's tattoos.
- He must have a lot. - Tattoos?
Many people get tattoos to look stylish these days.
However, my boyfriend is different.
He has a tattoo of a huge dragon on one arm...
- and a haetae on the other. - A haetae?
He has a list of Chinese characters across his chest.
On the back of his hands, he has large flower tattoos.
His fingers are covered with letters and numbers.
His neck is also covered with tattoos of skulls and flowers.
I tried to think of them as his personal style.
When I ask him, "What do you want to eat?"
"Do you want spaghetti or galbi?"
"Look at these flower tattoos!"
"Aren't these amazing?"
He always talks about tattoos. We never talk about anything else.
On my birthday,
he said, "I am really sick."
"I don't think I can see you today."
I ended up spending my birthday alone, but after a few days,
"What is that on your neck?"
"I told you not to get any more tattoos!"
"Did you get it..."
"on my birthday when you said you were sick?"
"I couldn't get a reservation on any other day."
What should I do about his obsession with tattoos?
"Make your choice. Is it me or tattoos?"
That's the worry she sent us.
What do our five guests think about this worry?
If I were her,
- I would get tattoo as well. - On your entire body?
Yes. If my boyfriend and I get tattoos together,
our love will deepen.
- Will you gain weight like Sae Ho? - What if you break up?
- I will marry him. - Wow.
Hye Mi, tell us what you think. You are pretty pessimistic.
- Don't mince your words. - Don't mince your words.
I would be sad if my boyfriend did that on my birthday.
I would not want to see his face.
He is only lying because she doesn't like tattoos.
If she liked tattoos,
they could have gotten tattoos together on her birthday.
(She thinks it's better to get tattoos together on her birthday.)
- That is ridiculous. - I don't know about that.
Here is what I think.
She needs to wait.
The surface area of a human body is limited.
- That's right. - He is bound to run out of space.
- Tattoos cannot be erased. - You think she needs to wait.
What if he starts getting tattoos on his face?
- He wouldn't go that far. - Let's see how many tattoos he has.
Let's see if the woman who sent us her worry...
is determined to settle the matter once and for all.
Please come on out.
(Who is worried about her heavily tattooed boyfriend?)
She is pretty.
(Baek Seol Hwa)
Welcome.
Tell us how heavily tattooed your boyfriend is.
Tattoos cover...
about 70 percent of his body.
- 70 percent? - He has a lot of tattoos.
When I first met him three years ago,
he had sleeve tattoos and a Chinese character on his chest.
- I see. - Back then,
it was okay because the tattoos could be covered.
However, tattoos began to cover his arms,
his hands, knuckles...
- and neck. - Neck?
What about here?
- He has tattoos there, too. - Before we meet him in person,
we will show you sketches of his tattoos.
These are sketches of tattoos he currently has.
This tattoo is on his body.
- It must have hurt a lot. - This is on his body, too.
That one is in colour.
- Look at this one. - My goodness.
- There are a lot of tattoos. - There is this one, too.
- My goodness.
Here is another one.
- Here is another one. - Do they all fit on his body?
- My goodness. - It's a skull.
- My goodness. - Gosh.
There are a lot of Chinese characters.
Are all of these tattoos on his body?
Each tattoo is so different from another.
Getting tattooed is one thing.
- It must have hurt a lot. - That many tattoos...
- must have cost him a fortune. - I know.
- Are they all on his body? - Yes, they are.
- They are? - Does he know Chinese characters?
It's hard to understand how he lied and got a tattoo...
on his girlfriend's birthday.
I was upset that he couldn't see me,
but I didn't say anything because he said he was tired.
Then he showed up with a new tattoo.
He couldn't have gotten it on any other day, so I asked him.
Does he ignore your calls to get a tattoo?
Yes, he does.
I tried calling him 150 times,
but he didn't answer.
He still updates on SNS...
even when he is not answering my calls.
- How could tattoos be so important? - I know.
It's annoying that he updates on SNS without answering your calls.
- I know. - It's time to meet her boyfriend.
- I am curious about him. - This is the man...
who neglects his girlfriend because of tattoos.
- Hello. - Hello.
Hello.
- He is handsome. - He is wearing a towel.
He must be doing that to cover his tattoos.
He is covering tattoos on his neck.
How does it feel to be on the show?
Cao Lu, you are not on a blind date.
For goodness' sake.
She would ask, "What do you think about me?"
Seriously.
I have noticed something interesting regarding women's reaction.
At first, they were like, "I hate tattoos."
Now that they have seen his face,
they are going, "I don't mind tattoos."
(I don't mind tattoos.)
He is handsome.
- I am flustered. - Why?
Some people obsess over food.
But I obsess over tattoos.
How often do you visit a tattooist?
- I go about 2 to 3 times a week. - What?
That's just excessive.
What is so great about tattoos?
- They are beautiful. - It's for his own contentment.
You think they are beautiful.
Tattoos make up a special outfit only I can wear.
He thinks of it as an outfit.
It's my style.
Then you only get one outfit.
- That's right. - It's not like you can change.
You can't change into a different outfit.
That's right.
We need to see his tattoos.
He is a handsome man.
Take a look at his scarf.
Do you see how wide it is?
- I can see a bit of his tattoos. - That means...
his neck is very long.
- I can see a bit of his tattoos. - It's not his beard...
you are getting a glimpse of.
- It's not his beard. - No, it's not.
- He seems to be fit, too. - I know.
He seems tall and fit.
Let's see a photo.
I can't wait to see it.
My goodness.
(Tattoos cover his arms.)
(His hands are heavily tattooed as well.)
That's excessive.
It looks as if he is wearing gloves.
I can't believe he has tattoos on his neck.
I see tattoos right beneath his chin.
Neck is a sensitive area, too.
- Gosh. - It must have hurt.
I saw numbers. What do the numbers signify?
It's my girlfriend's date of birth.
What is your girlfriend's date of birth?
January 3rd, 1993.
- He does love her. - He must like her a lot.
She is happy to know that the numbers are her date of birth.
You got a tattoo on your girlfriend's birthday.
He shouldn't have done that.
You must be apologetic.
I am not apologetic.
(What did you say?)
- Why not? - Tattoos are my passion.
I can celebrate my girlfriend's birthday next year.
- My goodness. - You can get a tattoo next year.
I had a reservation.
It's important to keep a promise I made to a tattoo artist.
Why were you on SNS when you weren't answering her call?
I needed to update a photo of my new tattoo.
You ignored her calls because you knew she would scold you, right?
- Yes. We had many fights. - My goodness.
So I decided to get another tattoo...
during my free time.
(This is unbelievable.)
I have a question.
- You bleed when you get a tattoo. - Yes.
Didn't it hurt?
It hurts a lot. It feels as if your skull is shaking...
because of vibration.
Also, your teeth feel as if they will fall out...
because you clench them.
Will you cover your entire body with tattoos?
Yes, I want to have tattoos from my forehead to sideburns...
- if my girlfriend allows it. - From forehead to sideburns?
- You want to tattoo your forehead? - Yes.
It will be hard to find a job with such tattoos.
Do you really want a tattoo here?
I mean...
What will the tattoo be? Will you write "Forehead"?
No, it will be a painting.
- What? - It will be a painting.
On your forehead?
This is quite shocking.
Let me ask you this question.
Choose between your girlfriend and tattoos.
(Girlfriend versus Tattoos)
The two are separate matters.
- Gosh. - My girlfriend and tattoos...
- are both important. - You can't choose between parents.
That's right.
In that case, are tattoos more of a dad or a mum?
Please answer.
- Please. - My goodness.
What a strange man.
Isn't it expensive to get a tattoo?
- It is expensive. - How much did your tattoos cost?
I spent about 8,400 dollars on my tattoos.
Where did the money come from? Did you earn the money?
Yes, I spend whatever I earn on tattoos.
- Really? - Yes.
If it's okay, I want to ask you what you do for a living.
I am a sales associate.
- For a clothing store, right? - Yes.
- He sells clothes. - I see.
In that case, tattoos could be your asset.
That's the excuse he used.
He said that tattoos make him a better sales associate.
Isn't it common among singers to get a pretty tattoo?
Yes, I have seen a lot of people with tattoos.
I think tattoos are pretty. When I have a chance,
I would like to get a tattoo.
Here is what I think.
I think Seol Hwa should go to a tattoo shop with her boyfriend...
and get a small tattoo.
- Wait. - A cute and small tattoo.
- Cao Lu. - You should go out with him then.
I am married.
- She's married. - His friends are here.
Let's take this moment to hear from his friends.
- Hello. - Hello.
You have listened to Seol Hwa's worry.
Do you understand her worry?
Maybe you think it's not much of a worry.
I think it's a serious worry.
- Why? - Whenever he gets a tattoo,
he whines about the pain.
He takes herbal medicine before getting tattoos.
I don't understand how tattoos are that important.
What is the ugliest tattoo he has...
in your opinion?
- The one on his neck. - I agree.
- That is the strangest one. - I agree wholeheartedly.
I begged him not to get a tattoo on his neck.
Begging is unbecoming.
People stare when I am with him.
- I bet. - We went to a sauna together...
and older men walked out.
- They avoided him. - Yes.
It's scary when a tattooed man asks you for a back scrub.
I am serious.
Would you remove your scarf for a second?
Let us see your neck from here.
We will look at your tattoo from a distance.
Remove the scarf.
Lift up your chin.
- He has a long neck. - What is the design?
- It's a skull. - It's a skull.
- It's really scary. - Imagine having a meal with him.
How would anyone eat by your side?
The skull will move every time you swallow food.
- Seriously. - It will move.
- I know. - Let's talk to the optimistic girl.
- All right. - What do you think?
Do you still think it's not a big worry?
The fact that he takes medication to get tattoos worries me.
After marriage,
a wife should take care of her husband's health.
If his habit damages his health,
he should stop. I changed my mind.
Let's hear from his other friend.
- I don't think it's a worry. - Why not?
A lot of people get tattoos these days.
- He has too many tattoos. - Wait a minute.
- Wait a minute.
- You have a tattoo, don't you? - Yes, I do.
Where did you get it done?
- Where are your tattoos? - Stomach, chest, back...
- and arms. - What are the designs?
- They're oriental paintings. - I see.
- Like a goblin... - Even though you have tattoos,
don't you think a neck tattoo is too much?
He has a tattoo on his neck.
- I don't think it's bad... - You don't?
because I have a few tattoos of my own.
His acquaintances have also visited the show.
Let's talk to one of them. Give him the microphone.
- Is he also a friend? - Hello.
Hello. How do you know him?
He used to work at my restaurant.
- I see. - Did he work part-time?
Yes. His tattoos may make him look like a delinquent,
but he is hard-working,
diligent and responsible.
The owner of the restaurant looks like he would have tattoos.
He does have that look.
- Well... - That's right.
Wouldn't the customers feel uncomfortable?
Let's say a customer wants to order a bottle of soju.
If the waiter is heavily tattooed,
he or she will be too scared to order.
He greeted his customers with a big smile,
- so older customers loved him. - I see.
However, things would change after a few drinks.
After a few drinks, they would insult his parents.
- I hate that. - "Don't you have parents?"
"Is that how your parents raised you?"
Even in those situations, he wouldn't get angry.
He would smile and tell me that he is okay.
I felt really bad for him...
in those situations.
Wait a minute. I have a question for Seol Hwa.
You stay in the relationship despite everything...
because you love him, right?
Yes. He is a perfect man except for his tattoos.
Our personalities match, too. He does everything my way.
When I don't like something, he fixes it.
- Except when it's a tattoo. - He does everything else my way.
They love each other very much. That is obvious.
- That's right. - They don't want to break up...
because they are in love.
However, tattoos aren't something Seol Hwa can ignore.
Have you broken up with him when he ignored your calls?
I told him that I will leave him...
if he gets a tattoo on his neck.
A few days later, he showed up with a tattoo on his neck.
- He was ready to break up. - He didn't even tell me.
I broke up with him that day.
- You did? - Yes, I did.
- How did you get back together? - Did you two part ways?
- Did you two break up? - We are still together.
I decided to go out with him again because he promised me...
- he won't get another tattoo. - I see.
He kept his promise for 40 or 50 days.
He didn't even talk about tattoos.
Then one day, he showed up with tattoos on his knuckles.
The tattoos were highly visible.
Why didn't you keep your promise?
You promised her that you wouldn't get another tattoo.
My head is filled with thoughts of tattoos.
I keep thinking about it. It's an addiction.
What will you do if your girlfriend really leaves you?
I will beg her to come back again.
- I won't do that. - You are sure she will come back.
It seems like you are confident that she won't leave you.
My girlfriend and tattoos are two separate matters.
- I don't think they are. - While that is true,
- she doesn't like tattoos. - She doesn't like it.
- I don't think she will leave me. - What?
I don't think she will leave me.
Your boyfriend strongly believes...
that you won't leave him. He seems very confident about it.
- Why does he think that? - How did you get back together?
I called, visited her house and texted.
I waited in front of her house for a week.
Do you think she will come back if you use the same method?
Yes, I think she will come back.
(Dumbfounded)
(Women are furious.)
(Gulping)
(That's how much he likes tattoos.)
You told us...
that you begged her to come back and waited for her by her house.
Did you get tattoos during that time?
No way.
(It can't be true.)
- No way. - Yes, I did.
(No way.)
- Seol Hwa, did you know that? - No, I didn't.
- She learned something new. - She must feel betrayed.
I got a retouch...
- to make the colours pop. - A retouch?
- He got a retouch. - I see.
You did that when she had left you because of tattoos.
- Yes. - It's an after-sales service.
- That's right. - My goodness.
He doesn't care about how betrayed Seol Hwa feels.
Your girlfriend had left you because of tattoos.
Didn't you resent your tattoos?
Not at all.
I pay my own money and endure the pain to get tattoos.
Why would I resent them?
Your girlfriend had left you because of tattoos.
The breakup gave me some free time.
Then why did you ask her to come back?
- I missed her. - Hold on.
- I can't live without her. - He is so simple-minded.
(He will lose his love at this rate.)
I love him...
and I want to stay in a relationship.
- I see. - We have had serious conversations.
Frankly, I want to marry him.
I want to marry him.
My parents know him, too.
They first met him when he didn't have a tattoo on his neck.
They loved him back then because he has a great personality.
He does have a great personality.
However, they have seen the tattoo on his neck.
- What did they say? - They said that it's distasteful.
They don't want to see him anymore...
even though we used to eat together often.
My friends worry that his tattoos will hold him back in the future.
They told me that he is not a husband material.
- "He is not a husband material." - That's what they said.
- My mum said the same thing. - Did you know this?
Yes, I did.
You are planning a future with Seol Hwa, right?
- Yes. - You do want to marry her.
- Yes, I do. - Yet you want more tattoos.
Marriage will work if we make a lot of money...
by working and living diligently.
It will be fine if I treat Seol Hwa more nicely. I am a nice guy.
- What? - I can make it work.
- He is so optimistic. - I can treat her with love.
Let's say you got married and have a child.
How will you explain your tattoos to your child?
About the time I have a child,
tattoos will have become a part of our culture.
I hope my child will understand me.
Your child might ask for a Pororo tattoo.
(Like father, like son.)
A child will cry...
at the sight of his dad's tattoos. I am afraid that will happen.
I really hope he would stop here.
I want him to stop talking about tattoos.
I want him to stop showing me designs.
I don't want to hear anything about tattoos.
You want him to stop getting tattoos.
My friend's mother suffered greatly because of a tattoo.
Her eyebrow tattoos came out crooked.
- She suffered all her life. - My goodness.
That's what I wanted to say.
Even eyebrow tattoos hurt a lot.
- He got eyebrow tattoos. - What?
- He got eyebrow tattoos. - Really?
It must have hurt a lot to get all those tattoos.
If he stops getting tattoos, will your parents come around?
Yes, I can convince them.
I really want him to stop. I hate the tattoo on his neck.
He needs to get a job in the future.
- Tattoos are his taste. - That's right.
- Tattoos are a personal taste. - Because of that,
no one should be forced to change his or her ways.
However, the couple's opinions differ drastically.
- Seriously. - Can they find the middle ground?
It's not a matter of a personal taste...
when he is someone's boyfriend and a future son-in-law.
His tattoos are beyond the matter of a personal taste.
- It is excessive. - He is living in Korea, after all.
He should have kept his tattoos below his neck.
- That's right. - He has a tattoo on his neck!
Seol Hwa said that she will convince her parents...
if you stop getting tattoos.
- Can you agree to that? - Well,
I can't do that.
- My goodness. - He won't give up on tattoos.
Contrary to what my girlfriend said, my tattoos are only 30 percent done.
My goodness.
I mean...
- I'm shocked. - He doesn't care about Seol Hwa.
- How far will you go? - When will you be satisfied?
- When will you... - I want to cover my entire body...
- and forehead with tattoos. - It will be a full outfit.
- Let's hear from Seol Hwa. - Why don't you tattoo your soles?
You are saying there is no way you will give up on tattoos.
Even if your girlfriend's parents and her friends are against it,
there is nothing you can do about it.
- No, there isn't. - He is very firm.
- He chose tattoos over her. - But you love your girlfriend.
I hope we can find the middle ground.
- I want to tattoo my forehead. - Right.
I think he is being very selfish.
- I can be like that. - He doesn't want Seol Hwa to leave,
but he intends to keep getting tattoos.
- He is asking Seol Hwa to change. - That's right.
This may sound harsh,
but it seems Seol Hwa ranks low in your heart.
(Does Seol Hwa rank lower than tattoos?)
(Please say it's not true.)
- I think tattoos rank higher. - You are right.
(Tattoos are more important to him.)
He chose tattoos over her.
Tattoos do rank higher than Seol Hwa in my heart.
- Wait. - I don't know how else to put it.
- My goodness. - Wait a minute.
The audience is stirred. I think he mistakenly said it.
It seems like...
(Teary-eyed)
- She is crying. - She is about to cry.
- Why am I crying? - I can understand she is upset.
- She is upset. - She is sad.
- She is upset at her boyfriend. - He said he won't give up tattoos.
How did your boyfriend's answer make you feel?
I am shocked.
We broke up once.
He begged me to come back, but he chose tattoos in the end.
I wouldn't say he chose tattoos over you.
I am an understanding girlfriend...
because I still went out with him despite his tattoos.
I did that because I love him,
but it seems like he doesn't care about me.
Where is one place you hope he wouldn't get a tattoo on?
- His face. - He shouldn't do it on his face.
Maybe you will get tattoos on your legs later,
but you should leave your face.
Okay, I will do that.
- Be firm in your answer. - Seriously.
- Don't get sideburn tattoos. - I won't.
Leave your ears alone, too.
- Don't get it on your face. - I won't do it on my face.
To be honest, leg tattoos...
won't make a difference at this point.
- It won't make a difference. - That's right.
Leg tattoos are fine. His body is already covered in tattoos.
- It won't matter. - People won't think,
"Thank goodness he didn't get tattoos on his legs."
Tattoos on his legs will create a balance.
(Tattoos on his legs will create a balance.)
Don't say that.
Seol Hwa,
say what you want to say to your boyfriend.
I want to...
go on ordinary dates like other couples.
I want you to look at me more than tattoo designs...
and share meals.
That's all I ask of you.
Let's start with Cao Lu. Do you think it's a worry?
Is it a worry?
- It's a worry. - You think it's a worry.
It's hard...
to find a woman who loves you this much.
Don't make her leave.
Don't make her cry.
- Thank you. - Hye Mi.
I think it's a worry. I hope they find...
a middle ground on the matter of tattoos.
- You don't think it's a worry. - No, I don't.
I don't think it's a worry. They will figure it out.
- What about you, Bo Ram? - She thinks it's a worry.
I think it's a worry. I think Seol Hwa...
is more worried about her boyfriend's lack of respect.
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3... - In 5, 4, 3...
My goodness, so many people are pressing the button.
- One! All right. - Time's up.
I think every woman in the audience voted.
- Say a few words to Seol Hwa. - That's right.
Since you hate it when I look at tattoo designs,
I won't do that anymore.
I will answer your calls from now on.
I do love you more than tattoos.
How much do you love her? Is it this much?
Well... If I love tattoos this much,
I love Seol Hwa this much.
(Seol Hwa and tattoos are fighting for his attention.)
- There's no difference. - His gestures were so small.
I love you, Seol Hwa.
Tell her how much you love her.
I love you this much.
(I love you a lot.)
(Her heart is melting.)
- She is happy. - He's so handsome.
- All right. - She's so happy.
Show us the result.
(The result)
Here comes the last digit.
Could it be 177?
(Will they win?)
- It's going up a lot. - A lot of people voted.
- 147. - That's a lot of votes.
(Eliminated and survived)
- This is "Stop Nagging Me." - "Stop Nagging Me."
A man in his 20s sent us the story.
I am writing to tell you about a man...
who drives me crazy 12 times a day.
"Hey, hey, hey."
"Do you know what time it is? Why are you still in bed?"
"Give me 5 more minutes. Just 5 more minutes."
"Five minutes?"
"Get up right now!"
It starts from the moment I open my eyes.
"Hey, where are you?"
"I'm grabbing a drink with my friends."
"Are you crazy?"
"You must have gone insane."
"You better get back here right now."
He nags me...
until I fall asleep.
This person is...
- my big brother. - His brother?
- Really?
He's always telling his little brother off.
On the outside, he looks normal.
But once he opens his mouth...
"You funky runt!"
"You little brat."
"I'll just..."
(Embarrassed)
It really sounded like swear words.
Whenever he opens his mouth, all he does is swear.
"Why do you bother living?"
- "Do you ever use your brain?" - He says that to his brother.
He's always humiliating me.
It's not only that.
"Where did you go without telling me?"
"My friend told me he was in the neighbourhood."
"What? How dare you."
- He hit me. - He hits him?
"How dare you."
- "You should have..." - Gosh.
- "told me..." - Hold on.
- "before you left." - It feels like I'm being hit.
- Hold on, hold on. - Wait.
- Hold on. - "Right?"
My friend was beside me.
He was standing right next to me.
- That's too much. - He hit me in front of my friend.
He meddles in my life, humiliates me, insults me and harasses me.
- Why does he do that? - Yeong Ja,
can you teach him a lesson?
(Please punish my big brother.)
He does this for no reason.
We'll meet the person who sent us the story.
Please come on out.
(Who is the man that has a nosy and scary brother?)
(Jung Gu Hyeong)
Welcome.
You look like a nice person.
- He seems very nice. - You're handsome.
- Can you introduce yourself? - Yes.
I'm Jung Gu Hyeong and I'm 28 years old.
- You're 28? - 28.
- He looks younger than that. - Yes.
- You look younger. - You look young.
- You really look young. - How old is your brother?
He's 29 years old.
- He's only a year older? - What?
- Yes. - He shouldn't treat you like that.
- You're only a year apart. - I thought he'd be much older.
But that's not even a full year.
- Is he 10 months older? - 10 to 11 months.
- Of course. - If you said it's only six months,
that would have been really weird.
That wouldn't make sense.
It has to be at least 10 months.
What part of your life does he interfere with the most?
When I wake up he says,
"Get up and take a shower."
"Let's go. Get in the car."
- He orders me around. - Is it like the army?
- He's always ordering me. - All the time?
Does he call you all the time?
- He calls me all the time. - What does he say?
- "Where are you? Who are you with?" - Because you're late.
"Why are you late? Hurry up and come home."
That's what he says.
- How does he say it? - Right, tell us.
He got mad at me earlier, too.
- His eyes get bigger. - I see.
"Hey, you!"
He looks like this and says, "Let's go outside."
- He says that in the morning? - "Get up."
"Aren't you going to work?" He says this while clenching his teeth.
- How long has he been doing this? - Ever since I was 23,
- we've been working together. - I see.
- So you work together. - When we didn't...
Does he only abuse you with his words?
- Sometimes he drinks. - Yes.
He would call me.
"Gu Hyeong, can you come pick me up?"
He brought his car to the bar.
- He wants you to drive? - Yes, he's asking me to drive.
I take a taxi and drive the car back with him...
to make sure he gets home safely.
- You make sure he gets home? - He's so nice.
You take good care of him.
Have you ever asked him to pick you up?
If I ask him to pick me up,
he would say...
"Why on earth did you take your car?"
- But he does it. - Yes, it makes things worse.
I'm not allowed to do it and he tells me off.
Has he ever been nice to you?
- Nice? - Yes.
I don't think so.
He only orders him around.
- I want to meet his brother. - Yes.
- We have to hear his brother out. - We should listen to his story.
Please come on out.
- They're identical. - They look similar.
They have similar eyes.
- You heard his side of the story. - Yes.
Is it true?
I think it's true,
but he only told it from his point of view.
- Do you understand his worry? - But...
- I can't relate to it. - My goodness.
As the older brother,
I just wanted to lead him in the right direction.
All he talked about was from his point of view.
Can you show us how...
- you really talk to him? - When I'm mad?
- How do you yell? - Show us.
- Stand up and show us. - Get up.
- Wake him up. - Tell him you need five minutes.
"Hey, get up."
"Get up."
"Do you know what time it is? Get up right now."
- "Give me five more minutes." - "Get up now."
"Do you know what time it is? Get up."
- "Give me five more minutes." - "Get up now."
- "Go get ready." - But why don't you just...
get up when he wakes you? Then he wouldn't nag you.
- He doesn't wake up. - He kept on sleeping.
- He asked for five more minutes. - He doesn't wake up.
It would be nice if he could say it nicely.
But as soon as he opens the door,
he says, "Get up."
As soon as he opens the door, he orders me.
Are you displeased with your little brother?
Yes, I am. Ever since I was 20,
I tried to support my family and worked hard to earn money.
But he started smoking in high school...
and he's obsessed with social media these days...
and he doesn't work hard.
He should take care of our parents.
- But he doesn't do that. - You think he's pathetic.
Yes, and it frustrates me.
Then when did you start smoking?
I don't smoke.
- What about social media? - I hardly use it.
Then what do you do for your parents?
I'm trying to be a good son by earning a lot of money for them.
I'm getting frustrated after listening to your brother.
What happened here?
- The story is completely different. - Why did you smoke...
- The way he said it... - Why did you smoke so early?
- I started smoking in high school. - In your last year of high school.
Your brother is a good son.
I'm good to my mother, too.
I live with my parents. My brother moved out.
I thought I was free.
I thought I wouldn't have to pick him up when he was drinking.
But it got worse and worse.
- How did it get worse? - Why?
- I don't understand. - He texts me.
- He texts you? - He texts me in the morning.
"Where are you? Are you awake? What are you doing? Let's go."
If I reply slowly, he will continue to send me texts.
He'll send me 80 texts.
- 80 texts? - Yes, he keeps sending them.
(He'll send me texts until I reply.)
Do you really send 80 texts?
On a bad day, I'd send him over 80 texts.
The message notifications on his phone will wake him up.
That's why I keep texting him.
(Are you awake? What are you doing?)
(Do you think you're rich? You're pathetic.)
(I don't believe this. Just keep ruining your life.)
It is a worry if you woke up at 3pm because you were drunk.
He said you were pathetic.
You got drunk and slept until 3pm?
- 3pm? - 3pm? You didn't go to work?
I can come in at any time.
We have different roles.
So it doesn't matter even if I wake up late.
Both of you can work on your own time...
and he's a grown man.
I don't think you have to babysit him.
I know I don't have to.
But my brother and I are running a cell phone store and a restaurant.
- I see. - We're both owners.
But my brother is more like a worker.
The restaurant opens at 12pm.
I told him he should be there before noon to open the restaurant.
But he woke up at 3pm, so I got mad. That's why I sent him so many texts.
You have to open at 12pm?
It's true I was a little late.
- You were late. - You were late.
- I was a little late. - This is so funny.
He sends texts like this every day.
He does this every day?
- Yes. - How many texts does he send?
He sends around 50 texts.
- Even if you're not late? - Yes.
Even if I wake up on time,
he'll still send me text messages.
- So he keeps sending texts. - Until now,
was there something you really couldn't take?
We're both owners.
If I tell our staff to clean, they'd go,
"Your brother told us not to."
That's what they say.
- What? - They say that?
- Are they looking down on you? - "He said you should do it."
My brother yelled at me...
in front of the staff.
"What are you doing?"
He glared at me and they watched us.
I have no choice but to shrivel up.
But to them, I'm an owner too.
- The staff can't respect you. - I'm an owner, too.
I guess he can't control his temper.
- He can't control it. - All he does...
- is scream at me. - One more thing.
When I first got out of the army,
- I was happy. - Yes.
I heard that he was drinking with his friends.
I needed 20 dollars.
- Because I wanted to go out. - 20 dollars?
- That's not a lot. - I needed it...
so I went to see him with my friend.
He threw the 20 dollars like this.
- To the floor? - Yes.
- No way. - He did it.
It drove me crazy. It would have been fine if I was alone.
- But his friends were there. - Of course.
- That's humiliating. - My friend was there, too.
- It would be annoying. - As I was picking it up,
I almost cried.
Then you shouldn't have picked it up.
But I needed it.
(I needed the money.)
- I really... - I understand.
I understand.
- You shouldn't have... - But I needed the money.
How should he have picked it up? I'll throw it.
Can I have 20 dollars?
I don't stand up straight.
Gosh, darn it.
Darn it.
(I will never bend down.)
Try that next time.
Don't bend down and hold it tight.
- That was... - That was mean. Why did you do it?
Your friends were there.
He already drank a lot the night before.
I had given him money the night before.
He's always asking for money. But he doesn't work hard.
He always asks for money.
I was upset so I threw it.
How many days had it been after he was discharged?
It had been about five months.
How could you?
- Five months? - It is a long time.
- It's already been a while. - But the thing is...
I was discharged on October 12th...
and my birthday was the next day.
- I should have a party, right? - Yes.
But he would drag me out and say,
"Come on, get to work. Learn this. Do that."
But when did he throw the money?
That was...
- 5 months after? - That was after 5 months.
(It was five months after I got discharged.)
I thought it was right after.
What are you talking about?
- He would've done the same. - Okay.
From your brother's point of view, he could get mad...
after seeing you drink so much.
But you threw the money. Your friends were there, too.
- Yes, that's true. - Your brother has his pride, too.
- I think that was too much. - I did it on purpose.
- Right. - I wanted him to think about it.
20 dollars may not seem like a lot,
but he had already spent a lot of money before then.
Have you tried talking to him nicely?
Is it because he won't listen?
Of course. I tried many times.
"You shouldn't do that. You should work harder and save money."
Since both of you are telling different stories,
we don't know who is telling the truth.
So we have invited an acquaintance who knows them both.
- Hello. - Hello.
- How do you know them?
I used to work for them.
Do you think the older brother is a bit harsh?
If we make a mistake,
he doesn't say much.
If we tell him, he'll just say, "It's okay."
But if Gu Hyeong makes a mistake, he drags him out to talk.
- We could hear him yell. - You could hear it.
Does he swear at him, too?
Yes, we could hear it a little bit.
Do you feel that he's too harsh?
The older brother is good at multitasking.
So he can do this and that at the same time.
But Gu Hyeong can't do it.
- He can't. - He can't multitask?
No. He can do it but Gu Hyeong can't multitask.
He's bound to make mistakes.
When he makes a mistake he says,
"How can you still make mistakes? You do this every day."
"How can you be so bad?"
When they talk in general,
does the older brother sound temperamental?
- Yes. - What do they talk about?
- We had a team dinner one time. - Okay.
- My brother got drunk. - Okay.
He was on the ground.
It was time to go home,
so I tried to wake him up. But he pushed me away.
I'm not sure if it's because he was drunk,
but as soon as he got up,
he asked me why I touched him and he grabbed me by the neck.
He dragged me outside...
- He dragged you? - and started to hit me.
(He hit you for no reason?)
- For no reason? - My friend was there.
It was getting really loud...
so someone reported us.
- The police came? - Yes.
Why did you do that?
- Gosh. - Why?
- He... - It's because you were drunk.
He just wanted to take you home.
We were talking while we were drinking.
The stores weren't doing well.
I had to think about my family,
my staff and the stores.
When I talked to him, he wouldn't talk about it.
We're both owners and we have the same parents.
But he wouldn't talk about it.
It's true we got into a quarrel because of our differences.
What are you talking about?
- I thought you hit him. - He said he got hit.
- He said he only got hit. - That's not true.
The police didn't come because it was a big fight.
They came because we were arguing.
You keep mentioning that you're the eldest in the family.
Did that put a lot of pressure on you when you were young?
Yes, the pressure was big.
We're only a year apart,
but I had to be responsible because I'm older.
What made you feel like you had to be responsible?
Did you struggle financially?
Or maybe the business didn't do well.
It wasn't that bad.
But my parents weren't in the position to give us money.
So we had to earn ourselves.
- You just matured faster. - That's right.
But my brother didn't follow my lead.
All he did was drink, sleep in, and go on social media.
Then did you earn the money to set up those stores?
Yes.
- Wow. - That's amazing.
- Wow, he's amazing. - But then...
Did you know about this?
- They are so different. - Right.
- Did you know how he felt? - Did you know?
No, I didn't know.
You thought he was just nagging?
Yes, just...
But...
- He's immature. - I guess you guys don't talk a lot.
There's a reason why I'm on social media a lot.
I'm also an honorary ambassador...
for Dongducheon.
- An honorary ambassador? - Yes, that's what I do.
- They assign ordinary people. - Yes.
What do you do?
Through social media, if someone...
loses their dog or belongings, we find it for them.
I even caught a criminal and received a commendation.
Doing this makes my heart flutter and it's so much fun.
- So this is what you want to do. - He just says,
"Why would you want to do that?"
He wants you to focus on the restaurant.
"You should focus on your work."
- But it makes his heart flutter. - Yes.
- Why did you talk bad about it? - It's a good deed.
After he became an ambassador,
I told my friends how proud I was.
I told my friends about it. I just didn't compliment him.
So you told your friends but didn't compliment your brother.
I think compliments are like poison to him. He thinks he deserves them.
- He's really strict. - He's strict.
It's like when parents are scared that their kids might...
become rude, so they only compliment their child to other parents.
I'm proud of him,
- but he has a job. - That's right.
It's affecting his work.
(He feels like this is affecting his work.)
If I were in your shoes,
I would try and quit.
I thought about quitting...
because I got sick of his nagging. I was really stressed.
- I see. - Even if I tell him...
that I want to quit, he'd say, "What can you do?"
- "How can you do anything?" - "What will you do?"
(His brother doesn't trust Gu Hyeong.)
I think that's wrong.
What does your brother mean to you?
- What is he like? - He's like a wall.
- Because... - What kind of wall?
No matter what I try to do,
he stops me from doing it.
I can't do anything because he stops me.
If he tells me to do it, I have to do it.
I think he's more intimidated...
because he's always being compared to you.
You're proud of your brother, right?
- Yes, I am. - He's lazy and drinks a lot,
- but that can't be it. - You should compliment him.
Instead of complimenting him to someone else, say it to him.
- My brother is... - Say it directly to him.
- Say his name. - Call his name.
Gu Hyeong.
- Look at your brother's face. - What is it?
- You should look at him. - Look at him.
You can look at me.
It's just that he never...
calls me by my name.
- Then what does he call you? - He usually says, "Hey."
As soon as I heard him call my name,
- Are you moved? - it felt weird.
Let's hear him out.
Look at him.
Gu Hyeong.
I know you're not a bad person. You are a kind man.
I also know...
that you think about our family as much as I do.
I know that you care about me, too. I know that.
I think I could have praised you...
for becoming an honorary ambassador.
- Just say you're proud of him. - Goodness.
- He's so awkward. - It's awkward.
It's awkward for us, too.
You need to compliment your brother more often.
Gu Hyeong. Since your brother complimented you,
say something you want to say to him.
Young Seung,
I wish you would respect me more.
I'd also appreciate it...
if you would talk more gently.
From now on,
I really hope to get along with you.
(Can we please get along?)
That was great.
Starting with Cao Lu.
Do you think it's a worry from his point of view?
It's not a worry.
I think he's a great brother. I'm jealous.
Cao Lu met a lot of men that she liked today.
There was Park Hyun Sun's husband...
and now Gu Hyeong's brother.
I think it's a worry.
I'm sure the younger brother was helpful at times.
I think he was just picking on the bad things.
- He expects a lot from him. - Yes.
- Is it a worry? - It's a worry.
I think it's a worry, too.
If it's about him getting to work on time,
then you should compliment him when he arrives on time.
I hope you can be nicer to your brother.
- You should listen to him, too. - Okay.
You have problems, too.
(Both of you have problems.)
I think it's a worry, too.
If you could relate to his problem,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- That's it. - Stop.
Gu Hyeong is intimidated by you.
How can he become successful if you've destroyed his self-esteem?
You agree, right?
- Yes, I agree. - You complimented him earlier.
Now, say something to your brother.
Gu Hyeong. I never complimented you...
and swore and nagged...
because I'm your older brother. I didn't mean anything bad.
I didn't know I had caused you so much pain.
So from now on,
I'll compliment you a lot.
How many votes did they get? Please show us the result.
(The result)
I don't think many people pressed the button.
- I agree. - Yes.
- It's 85. - 85 votes.
Good job. Thank you.
And so, "Find My Husband"...
won for the second time.
We'll give you a 1,000-dollar gift certificate.
Until the day we are all worry-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("No Sense" by Sam Kim)